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The stress of motherhood can be overwhelming.
Some days we feel like super mom and others…well, we feel like failures.
And sometimes it’s not for any particular reason at all. But the good news is that every mom on the planet has felt like this at some point in her journey of motherhood. I know I have.
Just this past week my house was a wreck -no matter how much I cleaned- and nobody seemed to care about the mess except for mama. It was stressful. Not only for me, but also for my husband and kids.
Because I walked around with a quiet mouth, but the LOUDEST attitude. And this attitude only seemed to create guilt and disappointment within myself for making my family feel so uncomfortable. And I couldn’t help but feel like a failure.
But thankfully God is good, and He showers us with His grace!
First of all, I’d like to address the guilt. Because it is “weigh you down” heavy. Not only do we feel guilty for “failing” our family, but we also feel guilty for the negative thoughts and emotions that come with it. You don’t have to feel this way.
And there are things you can do to overcome these feelings.
We all pull ourselves out of this slump in many different ways. But I’m going to share with you my top five go-to things that help me overcome! They may or may not be for you, but I’d love to hear what you do to pull yourself back up. Follow me on Facebook join the conversation!
1. Spend each morning with God.
When I rise before my kids and get some time alone with Jesus, my day seems to be less chaotic. My mind is at peace rather than frazzled and frustrated. On the other hand, if I let the day get ahead of me then the chaos consumes me. On those days, I have to create time for the peace I so long for. And that isn’t always easy to do with two little girls. But even when I hit the snooze button -one too many times- praying through the frustration is so much better than giving into it.
2. Search for encouragement through scripture.
As I mentioned before, last week was a total fail for this mama. But thankfully my husband rocks and he took all of our kids to the park. Though I wanted to clean without distraction during this time to myself, I knew that I needed some encouragement from scripture. So I cracked open my bible and just started reading, flipping through book after book, searching for words of hope.
3. Reach out to other moms.
Seriously, one of the greatest feelings in the world is to feel #relatable. And most likely, if you reach out to another mom her response will be one out of empathy. It never fails to amaze me how common it is among moms for the stress of motherhood to control us. On social media other moms seem to be thriving, which creates this fear for us to reach out for help. But I was reminded recently by a parenting podcast -that you can find here- that social media is our highlight reel. We are posting our winning moments, so why aren’t other moms doing the same!
4. Do something that relaxes you.
Some of my favorite things to do to relax are listen to podcasts, read books, play music, and journal. I do relax in other ways, but these seem to be the most successful for cheering me up. A few podcast recommendations: Mom Struggling Well, She Proves Faithful, Forest Hill Parenting, -and for the mom bloggers- Mom Blog School. All of these are filled with nuggets of knowledge! A few book recommendations: The Mission of Motherhood, Redeeming Love, and the Mark of the Lion Series.
5. Ask your family how they view you.
Though it is sometimes hard to believe, our spouses and children value us more than we know! When I reveal my struggles, my husband and kids praise me. And they delight in doing so! It is such a wonderful way to gain my strength! I’m not saying that you should pour out your guilt over your family. Because that will only hurt them. Approach them with repentance and gentleness. (To be honest, I am still learning this!)
But that’s what motherhood is: an always-changing, never-stop-learning journey.
I encourage you to love your role as a mom. Embrace it. And if you’re ever feeling like a failure, I leave you with this:
Psalm 41:11 – I know that You are pleased with me, for my enemy does not triumph over me.
Ecclesiastes 7:20 – There is not a righteous man on earth who does what is right and never sins.
Failure cannot defeat you, and you are never alone.
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