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Why You Should Apologize To Your Kids When You Are Wrong

Most of the time my kids think mom is “always right.”

And most of the time, I am right. But not always.

So I humble myself and usually say something like, “I’m sorry. I was wrong.”

Although it’s not easy to admit when I am wrong -to my kids, my husband, my mom, my friends, etc..- I know that my kids will benefit from an apology.

I do this for three reasons:

1. I want my kids to feel good about themselves.

As parents, my husband and I try our best to raise our children into adults who will apply the “golden rule” in their lives every chance they get. I like to feel good about myself, so why wouldn’t I want the same for my kiddos.

When my husband and I are arguing over something small like –to-may-toe/to-mah-toe- and I am right.. I like to hear it. Because there is something about the phrase, you were right,” that satisfies the soul. Therefore, when my kid and I are arguing over po-tay-toe/po-tah-toe, and they are right…it only makes sense to give them the same satisfaction.

But giving them the satisfaction of being right isn’t the only time I apologize to them.

I also apologize to my kids if my bad mood, or my actions, make them feel uncomfortable.

2. There is no better way to teach our children than to lead by example.

We all have moments where everyone around us is “walking on eggshells” because of something we said or did. And when we come to realize how ridiculous we are being, the shame and embarrassment brings most of us (unfortunately not all) to an apology.

When our kids realize that their parents, the most awesome people in their lives, are just as human as they are, they come to appreciate us more. Which leads to this I want to be like mom/dad mentality.

Therefore, they mimic our actions, our phrases, our stories, our traditions, and so much more.

Since they are taking mental notes, leading by example is the best way to teach our kids humility.

3. It teaches our kids empathy which creates an opportunity for forgiveness.

empathy – the ability to understand and share the feelings of another

I want my kids to have this ability. And we are all the same when it comes to making mistakes. It’s so important that our kids realize this.

Rather than teaching them to hold onto their hurt feelings by not apologizing when you are wrong, give them the opportunity to empathize with you. Teach them just how alike you really are.

Doing this allows them to forgive you and relieves them of any pent-up negative emotions that steal their joy. And nobody likes a thief. 😉

Do you apologize when you’re wrong? Why? Why not?
I’d love to read your responses in the comments below!

-Taylor Greenwald

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9 thoughts on “Why You Should Apologize To Your Kids When You Are Wrong”

  1. I completely agree with #2! As a perfectionist, I hate when I mess up as a mom and do something/say something I shouldn’t. But I tell myself that it’s giving my kids the opportunity to learn about sincere apologies and repentance. I can’t be a perfect mom, but I can at least be a mom who is quick to apologize.
    Great post!

    1. Thanks Lisa! I hate messing up as a mama too. It’s a horrible feeling. Luckily our kids think we are fantastic women and don’t fault us for our flaws! 😉

  2. Great post! No…I never apologize because I am super mom and I’m never wrong! I have a cape and a magic wand and everything!
    Haha!! Just kidding. 🙂 Of course, I apologize when I’m wrong…but man oh man sometimes it is HARD!! I apologize because I want my kids to know that making mistakes, doing something wrong is part of life, we ALL make mistakes! It’s what you do and how you learn from that mistake that matters and the first step is always admitting and apologizing you were wrong.

    1. Thanks Dori! Well, we are all super moms according to our kids! 😉 And yes! It’s so important that our kids recognize and repeat our habits. 💕 Thanks for reading. ☺️

  3. I always apologize when I am wrong. I am not superior to my children as a person, I am just authoritative as a parent, there is a big difference. I want them to see that I make mistakes too. I ask them to apologize to me when they make mistakes and I feel it would be wrong to not do the same in return. Great post!!

    1. Thanks for reading, Zhade! I love what you said about not being superior, but just authoritative. Hit the nail on the head! ☺️

    1. Angela, that is so true. It doesn’t ever benefit parents or their kids to have an “always right” mentality. It puts too much strain on the parent-child relationship and tends to cause rebellion in teenage years.

      Thank you so much for the nomination! I am honored and, to be honest, so shocked! It is so appreciated and has made my day! ☺️ Looks like I’ve got a blog post to work on! 😉

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